Dr. Vito Hemphill

WHAT IS TANTRA?

The mention of the word `tantra' evokes strange responses from people. They often look at you with a little grin, some fear or even judgment. Maybe they say, "you're talkin about sex, aren't you?" People are confused and often afraid to simply ask for clarification about tantra and what it really is. If you research the word, you will find answers like 'sacred sexuality or sacred union in partnership.' That's all a part of tantra and that doesn't really explain it for so many people.

I am Dr. Vito Hemphill and the founder of the `Inner Tantra System' and `90 Days To Ecstasy Programs.' For me, tantra is a lifestyle (a way of living and relating to the world around you). My work focuses on the inner masculine-feminine matrix that literally creates externalized reality. This article is intended to help you understand tantra so that you can fully comprhend the goal of my work. My intention as a facilitator is to help others to achieve more intimacy and ecstasy within themselves and with their partners.

Let's talk about sexuality and it's connection with spirituality. Many people agree that the current direction of spiritual growth is toward `multi-dimensional reality.' We live in what we think is a three dimensional world where we accept `time as a constant.' In other words, each minute is sixty seconds and all minutes are of equal length and therefore, time is predictable. You get what you expect from the nature of linear time perception. But, what if time was variable and sometimes time pasted faster than other times. For instance, when making love, you might look at the clock and be completely surprised by what you see versus what you expected the time to be. You can `loose track of time' when you get really involved in something or someone you love.

Multi-dimensionality is being explored by science under the heading of quantum physics and yogis have known about the multi-dimensionality of meditation for aeons. Shamans use hallucinogenic plants to go into multi-dimensional states for healing. There are many ways to go to the `edge of reality.' My opinion is that the purpose of going to the edge is to learn how to see and function multi-dimensionally `all of the time.' So, situations that allow us to experience multi-dimensional reality are our teachers. If the goal is to function from a place of conscious multi-dimensional perception and action all of the time, then we better practice.

Perhaps the most over looked multi-dimensional portal to connect to Source without any dogma is tantra and tantric sexuality. Tantric sexuality is the engine that builds the power for your energetic body to function better. This means better reception from Source and better output to everyone in your life! Healthy tantric sex is an `energy generator.' If your sexuality is like this, you will feel stronger, more relaxed, and vitalized each time you make love. Then, you start to understand that `tantric life' is not just about sex, but is about the ability to be intimate and vital with everyone because you are having 'stellar energy generating sex' with your beloved. Your love relationship needs to feeds ecstasy into your entire life experience.

Ecstasy feels the same as a great orgasm. The only difference is that orgasms usually last for less than one minute. Using the art of tantra allows you to orgasmically connect to Source for twenty-four hours everyday. Ecstasy is full on prolonged connection to Source that is often experienced as orgasmic joy, bliss, samadhi or nirvana. Most of us have experienced this state of ecstasy for at least a few seconds during a sexual orgasm. Practicing tantra helps you to stay in the experience of ecstasy for greater number of hours each day. One normal tantric lovemaking session may easily last three hours. The goal would be to continue to experience that heightened ecstatic state after leaving the bedroom. This is how tantra is really a lifestyle not just sex.

Now, let's say that you are living with more ecstasy for more hours each week. What are you going to do with that energy? I would suggest channeling the increased vitality into your creativity, work, and interpersonal relationships. I am talking about more emotional, mental, and spiritual intimacy with life. This is all about a greater depth of connection which is non-sexual except with your partner. Tantra brings intimacy because you are more relaxed, sexually fulfilled, and energized by the way you make love to your partner on a daily basis. Again, this is how tantra is a lifestyle.

Inner Tantra is a system that builds intimacy and better communication with everyone in your life. Inner Tantra is about seeing how you use both your masculine and feminine energies in your life. Through this increased self-awareness and great inner balance, you are able to make more conscious choices about what you are creating in your relationships. You can experience more ecstasy!

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The Inner Tantra System ^TM was developed by Dr. Vito Hemphill to help couples and individuals open doorways that would remain otherwise hidden -- doorways into love, connection, and lasting emotional fulfillment. It is meant for those who wish to enhance and expand communication and intimacy and to use their relationships as part of their spiritual practice.

Partnership is just business without intimacy. Has your love relationship turned into a business contract? Sure, you work, feed the children, and talk about your problems with your lover, but is that really enough? Many of us want more than technical support from our life partner. It gets back to the old saying, "Do you live to work or work to live?" Your love relationship should not be reduced to a chore list that you share with your lover just to get through the week.

Where's the passion? Where's the yearning? Where is the kind of love that you crave more than food? This is the nectar of love that connects lovers even when they are apart. Remember the look in your lover's eyes, the smell of your lover's hair or taste of your lover's sweat? Love like this is possible for those who value it and are willing to step outside their own limitations. It is a matter of opening your heart to vulnerability, compassion, honesty, and selflessness. Society doesn't teach us this kind of simple and profound love; however, it is possible to learn.

The fine art of true connection starts within you. You have to be intimate with yourself. You have to be willing to be honest with yourself and even willing to be wrong to shatter your old patterns that are not bringing intimacy into your life. Patterns of victimization, self-righteousness, fear, anger, lack of healthy boundaries, powerlessness, projection of past pain into present reality, and so many other wounds keep us from truly opening our hearts to real love.

Your pain makes you believe that real love is unattainable. As long as you believe in your own limitations, you will continue to limit your reality. As you release your old limitations, you will attract more clarity than you can imagine. Whatever you focus on gets bigger. So, as you become more conscious of your own hidden beliefs and expectations, you will see how you have created all the situations of your life. As you become more impeccable with your words and thoughts, you will have a more ecstatic life. Your dreams and intentions will manifest most effectively when you consistently hold your entire focus on what you truly want to create.

You are responsible for you what you create. Most people create their lives from the unconscious and subconscious wounds that they have lived for many lifetimes. Even the pain of this life alone makes most of us believe in loss, lack of love, betrayal, and distrust of the world. Most of us have experienced a lot of pain and that pain has validated our negative belief systems. Those negative beliefs create more loss scenarios that further validate our experience of victimization. This pattern can be healed by seeing how the negative attraction system operates. Once you see your limiting beliefs you will want to change them. This is the Law of Attraction and it always works. By knowing yourself, you can consciously make choices that attract a reality of more love and intimacy.

The greatest relationship challenge is intimacy. To attract intimacy in relationships, you must first learn how to be intimate with yourself. This means being willing to see all of yourself in a bigger perspective. Once you learn new techniques to see your deeper patterns and intentions, you can apply the same methods to better see your partner and anyone else using your new lens. By seeing yourself and the others more clearly, you will be able to make more positive and conscious choices to create healthier relationships that will revitalize your life and bring more you more prosperity.

The desired outcome of all this transformational inner work is to experience as much ecstasy as possible within you. Then, you can share that ecstasy with your partner and everyone else you encounter everyday. Ecstasy can be defined as `a state of blissful union with Source.' Your actual experience of ecstasy attracts more ecstatic people and situations into your world. The idea is to maintain the ecstatic state for as many hours as possible each day. The state of prolonged ecstasy then becomes your reality.

We are each made of both masculine and feminine. When we bring a healthy balance to our love relationships they will bloom into a fully ecstatic celebration of intimacy. Designed to help balance your own masculine (doing) and feminine (being) energies, the Inner Tantra System ^TM starts with your inner self and then moves out as an external manifestation. Developing clarity on the inside helps to manifest external clarity in relationships and in every other aspect of your life. What you are not conscious of within yourself still creates your daily reality. Make the choice to look deeper within to see who you really are and why you are creating the patterns that either brings you pain or pleasure. Once you see your own truth, you will want to change what is not working.

Intimacy is the magnetic and energetic flow between two souls that bring Delightenment or Ecstasy. To develop Intimacy there must be personal clarity first. I mean the cleansing of the emotional, mental, and spiritual parts of ourselves. This 'soul cleaning' is a way of creating 'space' within your being. By clearing the pain and misperceptions about ourselves and others, we can really start to 'show up' in more meaningful and authentic ways. The clearing literally creates space that allows Light (Spirit) to penetrate our personalities and to extend into our relationships with others! This is `Delightenment!

When two lovers individually do this kind of clearing and healing; they are so much more available to each other at heart, mind, and soul levels. This is Intimacy! Now they can fully `connect' without `contracting into each other.' When we are not feeling `full within ourselves,' we tend to pull on others for what we think we need from outside of ourself. This `pulling' literally creates `contraction' in love relationships. Instead of growing bigger through love, we contract, pull, and develop `expectations.' Neediness is a major turn-off. This is the beginning of the end of real love!

Real love and Intimacy are all about containing yourself, meeting your own needs, and then sharing all of that juiciness with your lover. When your `cup is full,' then you can dribble some of your nectar all over your lover. It is your personal responsibility to maintain your fullness by balancing your life and releasing your pain. If you take this responsibility, you can never be the `victim.' You can never blame someone else for what you do not have yourself. This is true empowerment and this is the foundation of Ecstasy.

My work is about helping individuals and couples to see themselves more clearly. This allows them to make conscious choices and move from victimhood to Empowerment to Ecstasy! If you would like to empower yourself and your relationship, use my Inner Tantra System to experience more Sexual Ecstasy with your lover!

I am offering free telephone consultations on "How to have more Intimacy and Ecstatic Sex!" Please contact me directly to set up an appointment soon.

When the masculine and feminine are balanced, it is possible to 'be' and 'do' at the same time. Literally, as you are Doing something, like speaking; you are also using your Being to observing yourself. The trick is to be willing to change your actions and words in every moment. Your Observer Self tells you when to change your course of action based on what is currently happening around you.

Your Observer Self is most directly connected to your intuition and to Source. When you do what Source tells you, life gets easier. There is a balance and flow in the universe that can guide you. This method uses your intuition rather than your mind for guidance. Personal growth often comes from doing something different than what you 'thought you were supposed to do.' Using both masculine and feminine parts of yourself makes you much more effective in the world.

I wrote this book to help people empower themselves so they can enjoy life more fully. Many people throughout the world are suffering. They have lost their connection with Source because they have lost their connection with Self. Emotional pain, mental turmoil, and survival issues distract us from our natural ability to hear Source. I define 'Source' as 'the natural intelligence of God.' The goal is to fully bring 'Source Intelligence' into physical manifestation.

"Four Faces in the Mirror" teaches you how to heal the emotional, mental, and spiritual pain which blocks your connection to Source. Self-awareness is the key to this process. By knowing yourself, you can increase your connection with Source and be what you really want to be. This is the foundation of true joy and grace.

The four faces are the four archetypes of positive masculine, positive feminine, negative masculine, and negative feminine. There are also 'over-active' and 'under-active' extremes for both negative masculine and negative feminine archetypes. The "Four Faces Method" helps you develop your own concept of each archetype and then shows you how to use those insights to positively change your life.

'Mirror-like Wisdom' is knowledge gained by watching your interactions with other people. The people in your life are there to teach you about yourself. What they say, what they do, and how they treat you has a lot to do with you. Pay attention to situations that upset you. Mirror-like Wisdom shows you that you are either the same or the opposite of what disturbs you.

If you do not like what you see in the mirror of life, start looking back at yourself. Ask the question, "what do I need to see about myself, right now?" Changing yourself automatically changes what you experience with other people in the future. You are the architect of your reality. If you expect problems, they happen. I you expect Grace, you get it. It's the 'law of attraction' in action. You must have very clear intentions.

Remain constantly vigilant of what is happening around you. Your life is a perfect mirror. The condition of your body, the condition of your home, your finances, and your history show who you really are. Ask the question, "who are my friends and what are they teaching me about myself?"

What is reflected back to you from others is either the 'same or the opposite' of where you are in that moment within yourself. Pay attention to what is 'incoming from others.' The issues that most upset you about other people are the most important areas to look at within yourself for
more personal growth. Doing the practical exercises in this DVD will help you gain Mirror-like Wisdom.

The Four Faces Method is empowering. It takes you out of the 'victim role' and uses 'Mirror-like Wisdom' to show you what you can improve. Stop blaming others for what you really need to change in yourself. Pain is an opportunity to learn more about yourself. The challenge is to translate self-awareness into a better life.

As long as you stay focused on being a 'victim,' you will attract more 'victimizers.' You will also attract other 'victims' to listen to your sad stories. When you take responsibility for your life experiences, you will have a more peace. What you 'focus on gets bigger.' Empowerment and victimization are opposites. Your focus draws you toward one extreme or another. You can use the 'heart virtues' of appreciation, compassion, forgiveness, humility, understanding, and valor' to attract a more joyful life.

Ideally, it is best to practice regularly for at least 3 to 4 months to make long-term changes. After regular practice, this method becomes a natural part of how you see life. Just 'looking at yourself honestly' changes everything. I suggest using a journal to record personal observations and insights. Your intuition does not necessarily work on demand. Intuitions come whenever they come. Your job is to record and learn from these personal realizations. If you not able to make a 3 month commitment, then do what you can.

I suggest that you ask your love partner or a friend to join you in this practice. The most effective way to share this method with others is to show them this DVD. Then, let them decide if they want to do the exercises with you. The Four Faces Method works very well when several people or groups do the practice together.

You can also come to one of my workshops. In a group environment, it is easier to identify archetypes and personality characteristics. By sharing processes with others, you quickly begin to see how archetypes blend together in different ways. This is an easy way to learn.

Once you have done these exercises for several months, you will automatically see life in a new way. Fresh insights will allow you to make moment to moment changes in how you respond to other people and situations. Self-awareness brings better choices. You can use this new awareness to decide who to date or how to spend your money. Your intuition can help you choose better friends and show you what is really important in life.

Yes, you can have more ease and joy when you consciously use the manifestation process. You are the blueprint of your own future. By honestly seeing your true motivations; you will easily understand how you have created the life you are living.

Well, I am available through my website for telephone consultations. Private phone consultations help you explore your unique issues directly with me. In this way, I will work with you to answer questions and give you specific suggestions. It is helpful to directly receive this type of feedback, especially after you have used the Four Faces Method for a while on your own or with friends. I can help you decide whether you are on track or not. Then, we can plan a course of future actions. Consultations take the guesswork out of this process and put you on a quicker path to making positive changes.

I also would suggest coming to one of my workshops for a powerful group experience. Three-day workshops cover all the material in the book and on this DVD in even greater detail. The added benefit is that you get to watch other people explore the same processes. Groups can help some people learn more efficiently.

I would especially like to caution everyone on how to best approach your 'mirroring partners.' The only way to succeed is with love. The Four Faces Method is challenging inner work that you can do at home without supervision. However, you must be respectful of your 'mirroring partners.'

If you get overwhelmed by this process, stop using the exercises. If your emotions continue to be unbearable, then seek professional help from a therapist. Self-awareness often brings up pain and sometimes that pain can be unbearable. Be gentle with yourself and don't push too hard. Ask for help when you need it.

Finally, a therapist recently reminded me that 'therapeutic tools' can easily be turned into 'therapeutic weapons.' I want you to avoid that pitfall by lovingly telling your truth to your partners. Please be humble enough to be wrong. Gentleness and honesty allow you to do these practical exercises with great integrity.