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Why did you write your book entitled “Four Faces in the Mirror: Seeing All Of Your Self?”

I wrote this book to help people empower themselves so they can enjoy life more fully. Many people throughout the world are suffering. They have lost their connection with Source because they have lost their connection with Self. Emotional pain, mental turmoil, and survival issues distract us from our natural ability to hear Source. I define 'Source' as 'the natural intelligence of God.' The goal is to fully bring 'Source Intelligence' into physical manifestation.

"Four Faces in the Mirror" teaches you how to heal the emotional, mental, and spiritual pain which blocks your connection to Source. Self-awareness is the key to this process. By knowing yourself, you can increase your connection with Source and be what you really want to be. This is the foundation of true joy and grace.

What are the “Four Faces?”

The four faces are the four archetypes of positive masculine, positive feminine, negative masculine, and negative feminine. There are also 'over-active' and 'under-active' extremes for both negative masculine and negative feminine archetypes. The "Four Faces Method" helps you develop your own concept of each archetype and then shows you how to use those insights to positively change your life.

What is the “Mirror-like Wisdom” that you discuss in your book?

'Mirror-like Wisdom' is knowledge gained by watching your interactions with other people. The people in your life are there to teach you about yourself. What they say, what they do, and how they treat you has a lot to do with you. Pay attention to situations that upset you. Mirror-like Wisdom shows you that you are either the same or the opposite of what disturbs you.

If you do not like what you see in the mirror of life, start looking back at yourself. Ask the question, "what do I need to see about myself, right now?" Changing yourself automatically changes what you experience with other people in the future. You are the architect of your reality. If you expect problems, they happen. I you expect Grace, you get it. It's the 'law of attraction' in action. You must have very clear intentions.

Remain constantly vigilant of what is happening around you. Your life is a perfect mirror. The condition of your body, the condition of your home, your finances, and your history show who you really are. Ask the question, "who are my friends and what are they teaching me about myself?"

What is reflected back to you from others is either the 'same or the opposite' of where you are in that moment within yourself. Pay attention to what is 'incoming from others.' The issues that most upset you about other people are the most important areas to look at within yourself for
more personal growth. Doing the practical exercises in this DVD will help you gain Mirror-like Wisdom.

How can masculine and feminine balance be used to promote personal growth?

When the masculine and feminine are balanced, it is possible to 'be' and 'do' at the same time. Literally, as you are Doing something, like speaking; you are also using your Being to observing yourself. The trick is to be willing to change your actions and words in every moment. Your Observer Self tells you when to change your course of action based on what is currently happening around you.

Your Observer Self is most directly connected to your intuition and to Source. When you do what Source tells you, life gets easier. There is a balance and flow in the universe that can guide you. This method uses your intuition rather than your mind for guidance. Personal growth often comes from doing something different than what you 'thought you were supposed to do.' Using both masculine and feminine parts of yourself makes you much more effective in the world.

How do you suggest that people deal with the issue of 'victimization?'

The Four Faces Method is empowering. It takes you out of the 'victim role' and uses 'Mirror-like Wisdom' to show you what you can improve. Stop blaming others for what you really need to change in yourself. Pain is an opportunity to learn more about yourself. The challenge is to translate self-awareness into a better life.

As long as you stay focused on being a 'victim,' you will attract more 'victimizers.' You will also attract other 'victims' to listen to your sad stories. When you take responsibility for your life experiences, you will have a more peace. What you 'focus on gets bigger.' Empowerment and victimization are opposites. Your focus draws you toward one extreme or another. You can use the 'heart virtues' of appreciation, compassion, forgiveness, humility, understanding, and valor' to attract a more joyful life.

How do you recommend using the Practical Exercises in your book?

Ideally, it is best to practice regularly for at least 3 to 4 months to make long-term changes. After regular practice, this method becomes a natural part of how you see life. Just 'looking at yourself honestly' changes everything. I suggest using a journal to record personal observations and insights. Your intuition does not necessarily work on demand. Intuitions come whenever they come. Your job is to record and learn from these personal realizations. If you not able to make a 3 month commitment, then do what you can.

I suggest that you ask your love partner or a friend to join you in this practice. The most effective way to share this method with others is to show them this DVD. Then, let them decide if they want to do the exercises with you. The Four Faces Method works very well when several people or groups do the practice together.

You can also come to one of my workshops. In a group environment, it is easier to identify archetypes and personality characteristics. By sharing processes with others, you quickly begin to see how archetypes blend together in different ways. This is an easy way to learn.

Once you have done these exercises for several months, you will automatically see life in a new way. Fresh insights will allow you to make moment to moment changes in how you respond to other people and situations. Self-awareness brings better choices. You can use this new awareness to decide who to date or how to spend your money. Your intuition can help you choose better friends and show you what is really important in life.

Yes, you can have more ease and joy when you consciously use the manifestation process. You are the blueprint of your own future. By honestly seeing your true motivations; you will easily understand how you have created the life you are living.

After reading the book and working with the DVD, what else can we do to further explore this method?

Well, I am available through my website for telephone consultations. Private phone consultations help you explore your unique issues directly with me. In this way, I will work with you to answer questions and give you specific suggestions. It is helpful to directly receive this type of feedback, especially after you have used the Four Faces Method for a while on your own or with friends. I can help you decide whether you are on track or not. Then, we can plan a course of future actions. Consultations take the guesswork out of this process and put you on a quicker path to making positive changes.

I also would suggest coming to one of my workshops for a powerful group experience. Three-day workshops cover all the material in the book and on this DVD in even greater detail. The added benefit is that you get to watch other people explore the same processes. Groups can help some people learn more efficiently.

Do you have any words of warning about the 'Four Faces Method?'

I would especially like to caution everyone on how to best approach your 'mirroring partners.' The only way to succeed is with love. The Four Faces Method is challenging inner work that you can do at home without supervision. However, you must be respectful of your 'mirroring partners.'

If you get overwhelmed by this process, stop using the exercises. If your emotions continue to be unbearable, then seek professional help from a therapist. Self-awareness often brings up pain and sometimes that pain can be unbearable. Be gentle with yourself and don't push too hard. Ask for help when you need it.

Finally, a therapist recently reminded me that 'therapeutic tools' can easily be turned into 'therapeutic weapons.' I want you to avoid that pitfall by lovingly telling your truth to your partners. Please be humble enough to be wrong. Gentleness and honesty allow you to do these practical exercises with great integrity.

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